Today’s ultimate transformation moment speaks to fathers–our unsung heroes. I acknowledge the fathers who are taking care of their business without fanfare and sometimes receive little to no appreciation at all.
Naim Akbar, in his book “Visions for Black Men,” gives the definition of a man as someone who lives on principle and principle alone, regardless of the consequence. Given the nature of society since slavery, it is clear to many of us that everyday there are major consequences associated with being a Black male in the community.
There are many men who stand up everyday and who operate based upon the principles they believe in. They love, provide for and protect their families. They strive and thrive. Unfortunately, the nightly news rarely offers an expose on these men. Television shows do not typically provide accurate representations of these men.
To truly fulfill our mission as fathers, we must lead by example. Our example must include making our health a priority. To those men who are sitting on the fence when it comes to their health, I say we have to get up, get out and exercise.
Become fit. Become stronger. This enables us to endure the challenges ahead. We must have the mental agility and physical strength to make the proper choices. Mentally, we must make the proper choices regarding our health and wellness. These choices must be based upon a positive image of ourselves, our families, the community, and the world.
These are the positive choices that allow us to be contributing companions to our beautiful wives, and loving fathers to our incredibly gifted children. Healthy men make choices with the understanding that we are here to secure and protect the environment in which our families can flourish, and the community can thrive. We must believe that we are positive influences for our community and the world in which we live.
There’s an African proverb that says “behind every strong woman is a strong man, and if you find a strong man, behind him there’s a strong woman.” Men and women give strength to each other, and our communities are the direct beneficiary of this strength. Secure in this knowledge of a safe environment, our queens by nature, will give us their ultimate support and crown us kings.
To truly fulfill our roles, we men must rededicate ourselves to our own health and wellness. Let’s get out and exercise three to four times each week, with no excuses. Eat more fruits and vegetables, and drink more water. Also, stay away from fried foods, foods high in sugar and sodium, and alcohol. Lastly, keep positive thoughts and project positive outcomes for your personal life. This is a basic formula for health and wellness.
Men, continue to do the great things that you’re doing, but understand that how we effect change is from our individual place. Create the principles and begin to live by them. Believe in the strength of commitment and, not only will our families benefit, but so too will communities, and of course, the world.
That’s our ultimate transformation moment. Peace and be more.
Erich Nall is the owner and founder of Ultimate Transformations Training in Los Angeles. The certified trainer, nutritionist, motivational speaker, and dedicated life coach is a regular guest and commentator on KJLH 102.3 FM’s the “Front Page with Dominique DiPrima.”